When I see your face

Another inspired words, by HL Chong

"What's meant to be will always find a way.=]"


maybe we don't need to lose something to realise something
be it or not
there's always happy ending


happy go lucky
that's more like me!

Nice to share, good to learn.

一段感情的成功与否，

  不是看是否还牵手，

  而是由感情品质而定，

  很多时候牵手不代表成功，

  分手不代表失败。

  关键是看在这段感情中你是否完成了两件重要的恋爱心理任务。

  你是否更了解自己的需求，

  你是否已学会疼爱别人。

  

爱的反面不应该是恨，

  而应该是淡忘；

  那为什么有些人的爱会变成恨，

  而不能成为淡忘呢，

  那是因为他在爱里面，

  缺乏了自信......

  在恋爱中我们需要完成两项重要的心理任务：

  一、要更了解自己。

  除自我认知概念外，

  让两性恋爱中的自己更完整清晰地呈现出来。

  二、培养我们爱人的能力。

  从自小习惯被爱开始学会爱人。

  

看一个男人是不是好男人有三个基准：

  负责、尊重和稳定。

  负责意味着他能对自己所说过的话负责。

  尊重则是指，他能够尊重自己的另一半，

  就是我们通常所说的，你和他之间建立的是“伙伴式关系”，

  你们相处的方式是平等的。

  另外，他还要是一个情绪稳定的人。

  有些人情绪容易大起大落，

  这样的人是很难维持一段长久的关系的。

  

上面说的只是好男人的基准。

  如果我们把条件再抬高成精品男人的话，

  还可以归纳出所谓“三心二意”的基准。

  首先第一个心是开心。

  他自己应该是一个开朗的人，

  这会让和他一起相处的人也感到心情愉快。

  

第二个心是关心。关心意味着体贴，

  这是所有女生都很容易理解的。

  第三个心是同理心。

  什么叫同理心？就是设身处地为别人着想的能力。

  同理心是尊重的来源，

  也是情侣间解决冲突时最重要的能力。

  还有两意。

  第一个意是诚意。诚意意味着真诚，真诚又是负责的基础。

  第二个意是善意，就是要能够用善意的方式去解读情侣的行为。

  这是很多人在与情侣相处时很难做到的，

  比如对方不小心迟到时，用恶意的解读方式来理解，

  就会开始责怪对方，你不在乎我！

   

  

有人买了一只不停亏损的股票，

  就像面对一段无法挽救的婚姻，

  该不该抛出就跟是否应该离婚一样困扰着他。

  在事情上所花出去所有的成本，比如耗费的时间、金钱等，

  当这些成本无法回收时，在心理学上被成为沉默成本。

  为什么我们不愿意离开一个不健康的婚姻，

  为什么不愿意放弃一个没有价值的股票，

  原因是我们不愿意去承认这些沉默成本再也无法回收。

  男生在恋爱里的情绪需求有如下几点：

  一、自身的能力被肯定。他时常会关心是否有让人瞧得起？

  二、才华被欣赏。也许他有些嗜好和才华与其工作完全不干，但你仍需学会喜爱和尊重。

  三、努力被感激。他对你以及对这段感情所做的努力需要被感激。

  女生在恋爱里的情绪需求：

  一、时常被关怀。虽是日常的唠叨，请你耐心倾听。

  二、再三地被肯定。她可能一二再而三地询问你是否爱她。

  其实她只是需要再三地肯定，你需要给她信心。

  三、想法被尊重。（在分享情绪种种时增进彼此感情）

  保持爱情天长地久的方式：

  制定一个三乘三的保鲜计划。

  一天三次一次三分钟。

  三A计划，第一Attention，全神贯注。

  在我们日常生活中，我常认为我们能给别人最好的礼物是时间，

  放掉你手边的所有活，关掉手机专心地听对方说话。

  第二Affection，浓情蜜意。

  非口语的沟通，即肢体语言的沟通。没事多抱抱对方。

  第三Appreciation，相互欣赏。

  每一个成熟的女性身体里都有个非常幼稚的小女孩，

  每一个幼稚小女孩体内都有个幼稚的小问号。

  那就是我到底有没有讨人喜欢。

  在这个时候你需要学会称赞对方，

  当然称赞对方外貌、身材是个不错的选择。

  或者她照顾家庭的能力也是不可忽视的。

  当然每一个成熟的男性身体里都有个非常幼稚的小男孩，

  每一个幼稚的小男孩体内都有个可笑的小问号，

  那就是我有没有让人家瞧不起？

  不管变成多成熟的男性，这个小问号依然存在。

  学会给他肯定，从来没有什么事情比爱更动容。

  如果现在觉得生命中有一些不完整的地方，

  很可能就是这个功课还没有做完。

   

  

爱情其实有规律可寻，

  如果遵循这些心理情绪需求，

  当最后一次对对方说我爱你的时候，

  我们会了无遗憾。

23

They're many numbers I can relate to in my life

Just one simple number could actually mean a lot

23 is number that I come to love, besides number 8 which I love too

Basically number 23 came from my ultimate idol, Michael Jordan

23 just made me think of him, and could be inspired by it anytime anywhere

'Cause this number reminded me of hardwork, determination and motivation

Which are what Michael Jordan's life is all about

23, is my age this year too

What will this year end up to be like?

Who knows?

Would love it to be wonderful and memorable of course

Same to everything else, it takes hardwork, sweats and determination

It's your life, you have to work for it

There's only so much we could do in our life, why not focus on the variables and let the rest flow

This way, one can be more cheerful and optimistic

I always hate myself for being so obsessed with problems in my life

Instead of letting it go and have a step backward to have a better view of the whole problem

I always dig myself a hole and dip my head into the problem, without being patient

Which only makes things worse but not better

I guess I've met enough problems and suffered many lost with this attitude

IT'S TIME TO KICK THIS BAD BAD HABIT AWAY!!! HO AIK HUI!!!

Or else you're gonna lose a whole lot more!!!

Life's nothing but a learning process

And not to mention a pursuit of happYness

We meet bumps and road blocks along the way

Thus, let me share these words for relationships, from Cheryl

"Relationships are never easy.

Some hide their true feelings, some being over sensitive, some complaint & criticize, some cant be bother, some give up easily. But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving"

Yup, no matter what problems, be it relationship or not...

It takes character and self control, to prevail anything in life

And also one more from Wer

"Life is short. Break the rules, forgive quickly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile. =)♥"

Life's been great, I shouldn't ask for anymore than what's already given to me

To have 3 meals a day, a bed to lie on, water to drink...

Is a pleasure that many in the world struggling to obtain

So...

Cherish the people that god has given to you

Cherish your parents as they've given you life

Cherish what is belong to you, and also what is not yours too

World will be a better place, when you let go your problems

为自己所爱，尽一份力！

下雨天啦，又只好呆在家里头

一个星期一次的礼拜天作乱美乐篮球日就这样泡汤了

为了防止自己的肚子在还没有吃饱的时候就已经肿胀的情况恶化

还是乖乖上楼换好球鞋，踏上跑步机跑跑以下

当跑步机开始启动的时候，才突然发现自己已经好久没有跑步了

虽然都有在打球，在场上跑来跑去

但是单纯的跑步，倒是已经有4－5个月了

跑完步过后流汗的感觉，当然是只有一个字可以形容

爽！

也很惊奇的有个想法蹦了出来

想想。。。

小时候为了欢乐而运动

青年时为了朋友而运动

年轻时为了荣誉而运动

中年时为了减肥而运动

老年时为了健康而运动

当然，这并不是发生在每一个人的身上，但也属于大多数人对待运动的态度吧？

也有人为了赚钱而运动

有人却也为了运动而死亡

当然也有人为了运动而运动，就是那种单纯的爱运动

这样说起来，运动其实也算是一个人对自己的一个责任

其实不计酬劳的话，运动跟工作其实没有两样吧？

那么，世界上又有多少人能从事自己喜欢的行业呢？

就像是把时间花在运动上面，却又能够得到酬劳

那该多好？

有一句话，

选你所爱，爱你所选

顾名思义，就是有爱，才有快乐的意思

所以啊，大四将近，关于未来的问题不时就会从脑海里浮现

当然，就是要做自己想做的事情

但脑海里的梦想事业，并不是一朝一夕就能够实现的

也幸好自己会有这样的想法，以后才不会因为100％即将面对的挫折而放弃

所以呢，这些日子都有在到处看看，到处学学

特别是有机会到医院去的时候，就会特别留意部门的分类和集体的运作

因为自己以后也想开间类似医院却又不只是医院的HEALTH HUB

不容易，但一定会加油！

说到为自己所爱，尽一分力！

没错，那就是篮球了

最近拿到一堆便宜的篮球，打算都带回去澳洲卖

来捞一笔～

发扬篮球运动，看到小孩对篮球那么有兴趣都会让我觉得好高兴

自己其实也对教导小孩打球非常有兴趣，希望以后有这样的一个机会

看到最近JB篮球Woohoo！搞的那么有声有色，新山篮坛开始有了希望

也为主办人感到开心！

剩下的假期时间屈指可数了

希望能好好休息享受做点有意义的事

才不会荒废这个‘最后’的假期！

今年回到这里只能meet到几位‘仅存’的朋友

但虽然数目没有以前那么多了，但是感情依旧！

朋友们！！！！！！

Dear friends!!!!!!

不管你们身在何处，祝福你们啦！

No matter where you are, I just wanna bless you guys!

总有一天我们会见面的！

We'll meet one day!

而我也坚信我们的废话一样可以不必热身，随口就能说！

And I also believe that our nonsense wouldn't even need any warmup, we'll click just right away!

New Year, Old People, Renewed Hopes

There you go, BYE 2010 and HELLO 2011!

Guess for this time, I really don't need to emphasise how much I love the year before

Well at least how I felt about it maybe

It's a new year, I'm with my old best friend and old best friends' voices

Guess I'm turning into the age which I count down with friends overseas over Skype using iPhone

Hey that's the first time I'm doing it and it didn't feel that bad afterall, at least with a buddy physically there beside me though

ZLZs in Brissie & Sydney, all the best!!!
And of course everyone that I truly cherish, you guys are awesome!

It's comforting to say that no matter how long we spent our time apart, when we talk, we talk like we've just seen each other the day before.

It has been a dynamic year for me

Felt like everything just happened yesterday

So many changes, so many new faces, so many grown-ups

If it weren't for the calendar, I wouldn't even know how little time has passed while so many events took place

Felt like everything is squeezed together

But hey when you add in some soda or just plain water, it's tasty and unforgettable

Guess that things just have to be concentrated if they come in huge volume :b

It was also a fruitful year

2 championships won, which doesn't happen often in my life

Many friendships made, which I truly appreciate

Passing 3rd year, guess this needs no explanation?

So what's up 2011?

4th year, what's ahead?

If you ask me, I would give you an answer that wouldn't surprise you much

But I know for myself, it wouldn't be as boring as it sounds

Big plans ahead! I'll do my best, not try!

New Year Resolution???

NEW Year

with

same OLD People

anticipate

RENEWED Hopes